got to see the ba-by!

I went to visit one of my girlfriends last night to be introduced to her 3 week old baby boy.

Earlier in the day she sent me a text requesting I come as early as I can. Totally doable. That afternoon I ran down stairs of our office to purchase a gift for her - 10 minutes and $85 plus later I was dashing back to my desk. At 530 I packed up, logged off and on my way to pick up my car before going to her place as early as I can facing peak hour traffic over the big bad bridge.

The little boy was day asleep and this have us a great chance to chat. I received 42 minutes worth of feeding stories, in excess of 25 minutes about her almost being sent home as she was only 1cm dealated - the baby was pushing to the side. Then there were stories about the midwife and comparisons with her other friends, the friends that are also married and have children.

It was painful.

There was a little squirm from the crib on the little boy was stirring, she said he does that for a while it was my chance to give her the gift. She had a look at everything, the little clothes, the entire Johnson & Johnson range, she put it down with what felt like dissatisfaction and said dismissivly thanks for that.

After 2 hours or more of her talking about new mother hood, which I get, just not so much graphic information!!! She finally asked how I am. This was my opening to tell her and her husband that I had booked my flights to Europe! This was her opening to tell me where to go.


It had got to 830 Her husband had been cooking, her poured himself a glass of wine without an offer, then progressed to place two place mats on the dining table. No question to me if I'd eaten. How could I? I came straight from work... I took this as my cue to leave, saying I should go, I have to cook myself dinner.

I found it uncomfortable and not in line with my behaviour or how I was brought up. Not even a nibbly being offered. I wouldn't do that. And, I came baring gifts! I felt rather put out by the whole event. Won't be rushing back to visit, anyway we all knw married friends with babies all gang together, if our friendship didn't have enough strain, it certainly does now.