I seldom write about my family, the worst thing imaginable would be for a family member to read about themselves on here – I would die. But, some things, for instance this, I just have to release…
My relationship with my sister is hardly a relationship at all, I feel like I have to step around egg shells when I’m talking to her, she is continually comments on her bad luck and her ultimate favourite thing to do - make me feel guilty for not calling her more often. She’s 10 years older; I shouldn’t be the one to instigate communication all the time!
Last week, she lost both her part-time jobs. My nephew was sick again, she couldn’t get a baby sitter or a carer to come over to look after him (bare in mind cerebral palsy and the recent operation to lengthen tenants in his leg). Well, she is now angry with me, calling me unreliable, selfish and un-sisterly because… Wait for it… 'I didn’t offer to take time off work’ to tend to him. She is blaming me for her losing her jobs. (mother dearest advised me of this)
Yep, that’s right, her jobs are more important than mine.
Don’t get me wrong. I love my nephew. I’m ranting about my sister’s attitude, not to be misrepresented for lack of consideration or alike…
My relationship with my sister is hardly a relationship at all, I feel like I have to step around egg shells when I’m talking to her, she is continually comments on her bad luck and her ultimate favourite thing to do - make me feel guilty for not calling her more often. She’s 10 years older; I shouldn’t be the one to instigate communication all the time!
Last week, she lost both her part-time jobs. My nephew was sick again, she couldn’t get a baby sitter or a carer to come over to look after him (bare in mind cerebral palsy and the recent operation to lengthen tenants in his leg). Well, she is now angry with me, calling me unreliable, selfish and un-sisterly because… Wait for it… 'I didn’t offer to take time off work’ to tend to him. She is blaming me for her losing her jobs. (mother dearest advised me of this)
Yep, that’s right, her jobs are more important than mine.
Don’t get me wrong. I love my nephew. I’m ranting about my sister’s attitude, not to be misrepresented for lack of consideration or alike…
7 comments:
The only advice I can give...and it's probably not worth anything, is that when anyone is hurting and feeling the world is putting on them they will attack those closest...
...and have you ever thought that maybe your sister is simply jealous of your decisions and your life, and maybe regrets hers.
That's very harsh of your sister to take that attitude.
I don't understand her thinking. Maybe she did just want to lash out at somebody and that somebody was you.
Yeah, she certainly could be jealous! If for no other reason than you have freedoms that she doesn't.
But that's not why I'm commenting. I have an older sister who has is driving me nutty, too! She's got kids, who are really great. But whenever I go to visit her and her family, she has other things going on. She's taking her kids to karate or dance lessons. They disappear off to a birthday party for hours at a time. She's doing things with her husband's family. And I completely appreciate all of that, but I strongly feel that if I go out of my way to travel 6 hours for a visit, can't she include me into her life a little bit more?
Whenever she comes to visit me, I clear my schedule of things that I quite possibly might want to do instead. But she's family, so I make do. I simply wish she'd reciprocate.
I told her how I felt the other day, and she tried to turn it around on me, saying, "you don't understand what it's like to have kids!"
So yeah, I think your sister is in the same boat as mine - they don't have the same freedoms we do, and take it out on us.
Family can be so damn frustrating!
Indiana: She constantly pushes me away. I often compare our life choices and circumstances…
Steph – She hung up on me Thursday night! It’s unbelievable her immature behaviour sometimes!
Heather – 6 hours away! WOW! You’re a good little sister. Mine lives 20 minute walk away and we only get together on special occasions.
I’ve also fallen victim to the birthday party outing. The one that really got under my skin was on behalf on my mother. We organised a Birthday lunch for mum and we had to meet on that Sunday at 12pm for lunch so my sister could take my nephew to a school friends birthday party at 2pm – I was ropeable!
Family! What can you do really?
when I hear about other people's strained relationships with a sibling, it makes me thankful that my bro and I get along...
I think there are many people who are susceptible to the "victim" trait. Nothing is fair. People are always doing bad things by them. They were dealt the hard cards. Etc etc.
I mean, realistically, we all have our issues, and we all have bad luck. But it's the way that we deal with it that makes us different.
Your sis must find her situation pretty hard, but there is a point where you need to grow up and stop blaming others for your misfortunes! It's amazing how powerful a positive attitude can be, regardless of your situation!
Anyway enough of a novel from me :oP
Oh btw, any suggestions on where to party in Sydney on a weeknight, I'm there in less than a WEEK (eep!)
Cibby, i envy your relationship...
Kales - I wish she would be more positive! I try to find the positive in every situation she has (and myself) if i can't, i laugh about it, better than crying.
Sydney, I love my city!
Monday - The Fringe Hotel in Paddington for Comedy Night
Tuesday.... Hmmm the cross always has somewhere pumping...
Wednesday - Beach Road Hotel, Bondi
Thursday - AB Hotel in Glebe, Russian night
Friday - Opera Bar! Or go to The Hilton ans try Zeta and Marble bar
Saturday night - Try Hugo's (i'm not a fan, but it's a must - wear your sexist outfit)
Sunday afternoon, Ravesi's at Bondi or Cabana St Leonards :-)
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