Is age a state of mind or does one need to be in a good state of mind to affiliate with one of another age?
Saturday night I was invited to my ex-protégé’s 21st birthday celebrations, I was feeling disheartened, drained. I called and said I was staying in... I put my trackie daks on the moment I got home from my big day gallivanting about in absurdly high heels and sheer designer outfits (complements MAFW).
I had resigned myself to staying in possibly watching a DVD that doesn’t contain the words ‘wedding’ or ‘marriage’ maybe lay on my bed and finish my book with a glass of red in my hand…
Saturday night I was invited to my ex-protégé’s 21st birthday celebrations, I was feeling disheartened, drained. I called and said I was staying in... I put my trackie daks on the moment I got home from my big day gallivanting about in absurdly high heels and sheer designer outfits (complements MAFW).
I had resigned myself to staying in possibly watching a DVD that doesn’t contain the words ‘wedding’ or ‘marriage’ maybe lay on my bed and finish my book with a glass of red in my hand…
My mobile rings and I see 'the old guy's' name flashing – effort. I answer in the most cheery disposition I could muster. He gave me a ‘sales pitch’ packaged up the evening in a way no girl could resist.
He picked me up in his late model 3 series BMW, we had dinner at Sea Cow, he brought along with him a bottle of Moët & Chandon Rosé (who knew Moët made Brut Rosé), it wasn’t before long he started talking business, he calls himself a ‘property broker’ I don’t want to be petty but, property broker, WTF? He asked if I wouldn’t mind looking at his proposed property acquisition summary, I hold back rolling my eyes and said ‘hand it over’, I love my work, property is what I know and I wouldn’t EVER call myself a broker, it borders on a sick hobby (every time I go away either domestic or international, I’m looking at real estate office windows). He then say’s ‘I didn’t ask you to dinner to look over a deal, you have to believe me. You believe me don’t you?’ Why can’t I let situations like this slide? ‘I don’t know you. I can’t say if I believe you?’
The only reason I date men approximately 20 years older than me is for exposure to their life experiences and knowledge with the hope I could learn from them, I can’t continue to date this man, I knew more about his car spec’s then he did, I advised the best approach to purchase a $9,000,000 property (also pointed out flaws in his feasibility) and I fixed his stereo system, what would he contribute to the relationship?
* No judgement please, if I were interested, if there was any chemistry these little issues would be overlooked.
He picked me up in his late model 3 series BMW, we had dinner at Sea Cow, he brought along with him a bottle of Moët & Chandon Rosé (who knew Moët made Brut Rosé), it wasn’t before long he started talking business, he calls himself a ‘property broker’ I don’t want to be petty but, property broker, WTF? He asked if I wouldn’t mind looking at his proposed property acquisition summary, I hold back rolling my eyes and said ‘hand it over’, I love my work, property is what I know and I wouldn’t EVER call myself a broker, it borders on a sick hobby (every time I go away either domestic or international, I’m looking at real estate office windows). He then say’s ‘I didn’t ask you to dinner to look over a deal, you have to believe me. You believe me don’t you?’ Why can’t I let situations like this slide? ‘I don’t know you. I can’t say if I believe you?’
The only reason I date men approximately 20 years older than me is for exposure to their life experiences and knowledge with the hope I could learn from them, I can’t continue to date this man, I knew more about his car spec’s then he did, I advised the best approach to purchase a $9,000,000 property (also pointed out flaws in his feasibility) and I fixed his stereo system, what would he contribute to the relationship?
* No judgement please, if I were interested, if there was any chemistry these little issues would be overlooked.
9 comments:
Why would you take out a woman to a nice restaurant with expensive beverages and then bombard her with your CV and property portfolio??? I went out with a girl that could not stop telling me what she had achived at University...Honours this! Distinction this! it drove me mad...In the end I asked her why she was trying to impress me with her resume and she stated that she did not think she was good enough for me and was tryiong to impress me with her scholastic achievments. I told her that they did not matter in the slightest because I know some really 'smart' people that could not hold a conversation with a house brick and some that left school at 15 that could give speeches to Winston Churchill..I'd rather know the person than the resume! (although if they have a nice car that helps LOL)
Nice cars are wasted on these people IMHO... ;)
he's 21 with a BMW? That's odd, no?
Daddy's money?
Drug money?
When I was 21, I was a real jerk, to compensate for the fact that I didn't have any worthwhile opinions and hadn't done anything interesting other than go to school...
It's not about his age but his personality, or the lack of it. If he was closer to your age, chances are the age difference would not be the major point of this post, but the kind of guy he is.
As for your question, I believe that age is a state of mind and it is about who you connect with, not a particular age group. I have always been the kind of person who befriended people of all ages. So I see it about connections rather than numbers and social norms.
Scorpy - I have a feeling his main initetion was to get my feedback on the property (I know it sounds like i'm blowing my own trumpet) taking me out for an expensive dinner wouldn't even dent my fees ;-)
I was asked not to long ago about the education level I prefer in a 'significant other' and I don't believe its soley related to scolastic aptitude. Are they street wise or socialy enept? I don't care if 'they' have a degree or a PHD.
G_B - Your telling me, I felt like jumping behind the wheel and showing him the car is capable of (I was about to refer to 'Pretty Woman' not the comparable i'm after)
Cibby - nup. the 21 year old was my trainee a few years back. BMW guy is in late 40's, also has NICE house in Woollahra ;-)
BTW I was drivin' around town in a lotus esprit when i was 21-22 (insert 'Pretty Woman' comment again)
Chickybabe - Your right about age diffrences not being my major point, I did reflect on the evenings invitations a 21st b'day party to a dinner with a 45+ gentlman and that is my life, my freinds.. I thrieve on being exposed to all types (i'll use that term loosly) there are so many interesting people in the big wide world that I love getting to know...
The more I think about it, guys (of all ages, apparently) are after one thing from women:
Acceptance. Or even reassurance.
Weird.
Wombat
*not Weird Wombat, it's just a weird concept*
Nat, you had a lotus when you were 21?
*tears hair in frustration of the inequality of the world*
that's much better...
I once had an '88 chevette. It didn't run properly. I bought it for $100.
Inequality of the world hey Cibby??? I may have been 23 with the lotus on second thoughts. 21 I had my drift car (imported to my specifications) I'll give you a list of all the cars I've owned one day ;-)
...he sounds like a bit of a drainer actually - but hey champagne is good. :P
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